What is Self Love? By Caitlyn Picerno

The words “self, love, and self-love” get thrown around a ton in our lives, but what do they really mean? I would argue some of the definition is subjective to each individual person however, we can say that will all words. There has to be a basic understanding to all people what meaning has been assigned to these words.

Now I can tell you the dictionary definitions of these words and I think it is a great place to start, but certainly not all encompassing.

According to Google Dictionary:

Self- “a person’s essential being that distinguishes them from others, especially considered as the object of introspection or reflexive action.”

Love- “an intense feeling of deep affection.”

Self-Love- “regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic).”

To paraphrase, an object with an intense feeling of affection or a regard for one’s health.

My Definition:

I am going to be blunt and say these definitions are terrible! I am not an object, objects cannot feel, and a “regard for one’s own well-being” is loving yourself. These make me sick and also provide so much insight into why we have such a hard time as a society wrapping our heads around these words!

So let’s dive deeper. Let’s get clear on what self- love means and looks life.

First, the feeling of self-love. When you are loving yourself, you feel complete, happy, full, exhilarated, nourished, peaceful, content, and the list continues! You encompass a being of light feeling all the feels we desire. There is no one feeling that completely covers what self-love feels like. It is a place where we are pushing through fear and feeling optimistic about opportunities. Self-love is feeling confident in the decisions you make. Feeling love for your physical body and having your actions represent it as well.

Second, the actions of self-love are endless. The action of self-love is putting your well-being first not just regarding it! It is paying your bills, balancing finances, getting a massage, doing a face mask, being active, feeding your body healthy foods, surrounding yourself with uplifting people, creating adventure, participating in activities that make you feel desired feelings (See how they overlap- because within us nothing is separate), and again the list continues. Self-love is showing yourself YOU MATTER and DESERVE TO OWN THE SPACE YOU TAKE UP IN THE UNIVERSE!

Self-love is knowing you belong here and pursing your desires! Self-love is being able to love others! Self- love is showing up for yourself and helping others! Self-love is exhibiting who you want to be and making it a reality! Self-love is deciding what you accept as your truth! Self- love is CREATING YOUR LIFE!

I could keep going forever, but since that is not the point here, I want to wrap this up with saying:

Self-Love is You!

You have the power to decide what they words thrown together mean and how to embody hem in your personal life.

When people ask me, “How do you help your clients with self-love?” my answer is always I help them find who they are and become who they want to be.

The power is within you! You are Self-Love! Own it!

As always if you need some support and guidance, reach out to me! I am here to help you in your journey! I love you!

Caitlyn Picerno

Caitlyn Picerno is an Intuitive Healing Coach and Animal Communicator. Her passion and mission is to return us to self-love, reclaim our inner power, and manifest our dreams into our reality with happy pets by our sides. Caitlyn began her journey in self-discovery through volunteering at the early age of thirteen. She fell in love and purposed a Bachelor’s Degree in Human Services and Mental Health Counseling, but throughout her education always felt something was missing with the tradition approaches. After many years of traveling adventures, immersing in different cultures, and research work with different populations, she was led to the transformational work she does today.

Caitlyn works with the whole human body: mind, body, and spirit while incorporating animal work. She has extensive knowledge of many different tradition and holistic healing modalities as well as studied under mentors for years while continuing her own spiritual awakening. Caitlyn is here to serve us in our journey and allow us to make them be truly magical!

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