How To Become Friends with Your Inner Voice, by Maria Sutera

What's your inner voice telling you?

We all have that voice in our head that is talking to us every day. It can be saying something as simple as ‘I feel like a tea’, something nice ‘I look good in red’ or it can be mean saying ‘I’m such an idiot’.

There is one that predominantly runs the show so my question to you is, which one is it?

When your inner voice is love-based you take action, you go for your dreams, you believe in yourself. You feel fulfilled, purposeful and your self-belief is high.

When it is fear-based your goals, dreams and desires stay exactly that-goals, dreams and desires. They are unrealised leaving you feeling unfulfilled, fearful and your self-worth plummets.

We are taught to think before we speak to others; the words and tone of voice but we aren’t taught to speak to ourselves in a compassionate, gentle and loving way. We need to teach ourselves.

Here are three ways to start listening to your inner voice and becoming besties with it.

1. Get still and silent

To really ‘hear’ what your inner voice is saying make time for yourself, get comfortable and see what thoughts arise. Write it down in your journal or notes on your phone and see whether your thoughts are more love-based or fear-based. Jot down how they are and aren’t serving you. Don’t berate yourself if you have fear-based thoughts as it’s part of being human simply go to Step 2 below.

2. Choose love over fear

Love is what removes fear. Whenever those fear-based thoughts pop up take note and replace it with ‘I choose love’. Let it become your mantra. I choose love. I choose love. Humans have anything between 12 000 to 60 000 thoughts a day so it does take practise and it’s ok if you don’t do it every single time, as long as you start and be consistent. In time you will notice more when those thoughts come and it will become a beautiful habit.

3. Express gratitude

It is impossible to feel grateful and unhappy at the same time. There is always something to be grateful for. It can be as simple as ‘I am grateful that I have a bed to sleep in’ or ‘I am grateful I have eyes to see’. First thing in the morning when your mind is the clearest write down three things that you are grateful for. Write it somewhere that you can see a few times throughout the day to remind yourself. An easy way is to set your alarm, on the hour if you can, and type them in your alarm label so that throughout the day you’ll have moments of appreciation and thankfulness.

The key is to make a choice and be consistent.


Maria Sutera is a life coach who supports and guides women to remove self-doubt and self-limiting beliefs and replace it with empowerment, self-love and self-acceptance.

Her mission is to help women create a life of purpose and passion by awakening the light that is within them so they can have the life they truly desire and deserve, one that is unique and brilliantly tailored for them.

Through her 3 month and 6 month packages Maria motivates and inspires women to:

* design a life that lights them up.

* have a mindset of ‘I can and I do.'

* know their reason why.

* feel extraordinary on the inside and reflect it into their world.